Friday 13 September 2013


Though I review a lot of fictional books and novels I also like to read some factual books too. Below is my review of a book that perhaps we should be taught in schools, or at the very least read before we ever think of getting married! Having gone through a divorce myself after 12 years of marriage. I finally took the plunge and escaping a life of domestic abuse. My parents also divorced, with me ending up being somewhat of a go between even though I tried my best not to be. Having said that my parents divorce after 40+ years of marriage was much more amicable than mine. Anyhow enough about me, I just wanted to explain why I show an interest in books on escaping domestic violence and divorce etc.

ISBN: 978-1491217924
Publisher: Self/Indie
Pages/File Size: 51pages/193KB
Formats Available: Paperback, E-Book

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This fill-in-the-blank divorce planner will walk you step-by-step through organizing and planning your divorce.

Whether this decision something you wanted or it was forced upon you, if you don’t plan to walk away with a fair settlement, then you are planning to fail.

Inside this workbook you’ll find:

1. Explanations of the 5 different types of divorce . . .which one will work for you and your spouse and which ones you should avoid like the plague.

2. What net worth is, why it’s important and how to determine yours. Easy fill-in-the-blank worksheets that will tell your attorney exactly what must be addressed in the divorce equitable distribution.

3. Your settlement options with business assets and liabilities. How to split the business and how NOT to; the mistakes that you can make now that will make your life miserable later.

4. How to take care of the needs of your children, today and in 2 years. Children grow and so do their needs. You’ll fill out easy forms that your attorney will use to help define your negotiable expenses.

5. How to determine the right amount of spousal support and your divorce financial planning.

6. The most common areas of your life that should be addressed in the process and are often left out! You’ll kick yourself around the block in just 2 years if you leave these out.

7. Bonus strategies that will help you prepare for the process and get exactly what you want. Using behavioral techniques that experts employ in group dynamics and conflict resolution, you will be able to influence the process with your spouse and their attorney so you walk away as satisfied as you can be.

This time is incredibly challenging and an emotional roller-coaster. Even if you and your spouse do not finalize a divorce but reconcile, going through this process will actually help your future financial planning.

It can be easy to bury your head in the sand and ignore the very real needs for tomorrow – but if you do not address them you could very well end up living on someone’s couch.

It does NOT have to be that way!

Instead, you can go through the process with the confidence and knowledge that you are doing all that you can to protect your future. You may be in so much pain now that you just CAN’T focus on your future . . . but those days are coming and you can be a conqueror by just following some simple steps and working with your attorney.

I'm 25% done with Divorce Organizer and am thinking Am I gonna learn things I should have done and didn't?

I received this book directly from the Author free of charge in exchange for my honest review.
It's quite ironic as I sit here on 3rd September writing this review as it would have been my 20th Wedding Annivarsary had I not gone through my divorce. Do I have any regrets about my divorce? Only two, one that I didn't do it sooner and two that I now feel I was much to soft on my violent ex! 
So about the book - this is quite literally a handbook/guide to all things related to divorce. Though to be totally honest to avoid mistakes in marriage it would probably make much more sense to read this book before you ever get married! It has lots of advice and things to think about, like do you really need only that joint bank account? Should the house you are buying be in just your husbands name or do you need to make sure your name is on the house deeds?
Then there's child support, how much should be paid? what should be included? ie. after school clubs, dancing club, music lessons, school uniforms, new shoes etc.
And who gets the children for which holidays and for how long? Who decides which school your child should attend? What religion they should be brought up in? 
So what did I think? The book is catered more for american law but the majority of the information can be used over here in the UK too. The book contains some great advice, and contains things you perhaps wouldn't think of. the book also contains real people and their "mistakes" and what they would change if they could and if they had read this book.
As this book is so different my sum up will also be slightly different.
I do seriously sympathize with anyone going through a divorce, it is literally as if you are walking through a mine field just waiting for the next bomb to go off. So would I recommend this book? YES! anyone with marriage in mind should read it BEFORE they commit and start mixing finances.


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